What's Your Dominant Self-Sabotage Energy?
Discover which Success Saboteur Energy is holding you back from stepping into your full potential and creating the impact and success you crave.
How do you feel when you have to promote your self, your services or products to others?
Nervous that people won’t like my offer or will think it’s/ I'm too much.
I feel unsure about asking for the sale—I'm afraid it won't work out.
I’d rather avoid promoting unless I can ensure it’s done perfectly, with zero mistakes.
It feels uncomfortable because I’m more focused on other people’s needs than my own.
I want everything to look polished and professional before I promote.
How do you react when someone asks for a freebie or discount in exchange for a testimonial or exposure, or for a favour when you’re at bandwidth?
I feel like I have to over-deliver to make it “perfect” and ensure I get a positive testimonial.
I feel pressured to give in because I don’t want to disappoint anyone, even if it’s not aligned with my value.
I overanalyze whether it’s a good opportunity and whether I should say yes or no.
I feel like I’m not good enough to charge full price or that I should give away my services to prove myself.
I try to control the situation by making sure I get the best possible outcome.
When promoting yourself or your services, what feels most difficult?
Talking about myself and my work in a way that feels authentic and not self-serving.
Trying to be sure everything is perfect before I post or share it.
The uncertainty around whether my message will be understood or effective.
Making sure I’m perceived properly and that everything looks and feels “right.”
When thinking about being in the spotlight (social media, live videos, posts, etc.), what goes through your mind?
"What if people think I don’t know what I’m talking about or think I’m pretending?"
"I don't want to seem too self-promoting. I feel awkward talking about myself."
"I need to control how I'm perceived and ensure everything looks perfect."
"I don’t know if my message will land the way I want it to."
"It needs to be flawless. This is going to take all day."
How comfortable are you with the idea of standing out and being visible in your business?
I like the idea, but when is this going to happen? I need to get everything ready and put on some lipstick.
I prefer to stay in the background and let others take the spotlight.
I’m afraid people will judge me or think I’m too bold.
I want to control the when and the how so I come across really well.
I struggle to feel clear about how to position myself and my message.
How do you feel when you see others who are visibly successful in your field?
I feel like I’m not as good as they are and doubt my own abilities.
I feel frustrated because I want to control my success but can’t make everything go like I plan.
I compare myself to others, unsure of how to position myself.
I think, "I could never be that polished or put together."
I feel like I should be helping others more and promoting myself less.
When you sit down to write a social media post or presentation script, %%FIRST%%,
what tends to happen?
I give myself a long time, because it has to be crystal clear. I worry that the audience won't “get it,” or if I’m being too vague.
I debate with myself whether I have the credibility to speak with authority about the topic.
I focus on what others might want to hear, even if it doesn’t fully align with what I want to say.
I spend hours rewriting and tweaking, trying to make the message sound flawless.
I micromanage the message, trying to anticipate every possible question or objection. (I tend to be long-winded.)
How do you handle feedback or criticism from others about your work or content?
I overanalyze it and keep tweaking to avoid any imperfections.
I get paralyzed by feedback, unsure if it’s constructive or just negative.
I often avoid sharing my work because I don’t want to be criticized.
I take it personally and feel like it means I’m not good enough.
I try to fix everything based on feedback, even when it's minor, to make sure it's "right."
When you think about charging what you're worth/ asking for a raise, %%FIRST%%,
how does it feel?
I feel like I need to make sure everything is 100% before I can consider asking for more money.
I feel like I’m not worthy enough to charge that much, or I’ll be judged if I do.
I feel like I need to justify the price with a ton of details and explanations, and I worry about reactions.
I feel guilty or worry that I’m not doing enough to justify the price/ number.
I keep second-guessing myself, wondering if people will think it’s too much or if I’m not clear enough about the value.
When you’re in a sales conversation or negotiation, %%FIRST%%,
how do you feel?
I hesitate to ask for the sale, worrying it might be rejected.
I tend to over-prepare, and worry when things go off script.
I tend to give too much away or over-deliver to avoid discomfort.
I want everything to go without a hitch, and so I wait for the perfect moment.
I often second-guess myself and feel like I’m not presenting the offer well.
You’ve been the helper, the holder, the one who shows up no matter what. And that’s beautiful. But your energy deserves boundaries.
When you reclaim your time, your power, and your voice, your gifts don’t diminish—they deepen.
You want to do it right. You want to get it right. And that drive has served you—until it started keeping you stuck. You don’t have to be flawless to be worthy.
You just have to be real.
You feel deeply. You care deeply. And that makes you powerful.
But when the fear of judgment keeps you quiet - or you hold back parts of yourself to fit in - the world misses out on your medicine. What if being seen didn’t mean being at risk, but being free?
You’ve tried to logic your way through the fog. You’ve waited for clarity to feel safe enough to move. But what if clarity comes after the first step? Your next move doesn’t need to be perfect—it just needs to be true.
You’re the one who gets it done. The one who carries the weight. And that power is real—but so is your exhaustion. What if letting go didn’t mean losing control, but gaining freedom?
