What's Your Dominant Self-Sabotage Energy?
Discover which Success Saboteur Energy is holding you back from stepping into your full potential and creating the impact and success you crave.
How comfortable are you with the idea of standing out and being visible in your business?
I prefer to stay in the background and let others take the spotlight.
I struggle to feel clear about how to position myself and my message.
I want to control the when and the how so I come across really well.
I like the idea, but when is this going to happen? I need to get everything ready and put on some lipstick.
I’m afraid people will judge me or think I’m too bold.
When promoting yourself or your services, what feels most difficult?
Making sure I’m perceived properly and that everything looks and feels “right.”
Trying to be sure everything is perfect before I post or share it.
Talking about myself and my work in a way that feels authentic and not self-serving.
The uncertainty around whether my message will be understood or effective.
How do you feel when you have to promote your self, your services or products to others?
I feel unsure about asking for the sale—I'm afraid it won't work out.
Nervous that people won’t like my offer or will think it’s/ I'm too much.
I’d rather avoid promoting unless I can ensure it’s done perfectly, with zero mistakes.
It feels uncomfortable because I’m more focused on other people’s needs than my own.
I want everything to look polished and professional before I promote.
When you think about charging what you're worth/ asking for a raise, %%FIRST%%,
how does it feel?
I feel like I’m not worthy enough to charge that much, or I’ll be judged if I do.
I keep second-guessing myself, wondering if people will think it’s too much or if I’m not clear enough about the value.
I feel like I need to make sure everything is 100% before I can consider asking for more money.
I feel like I need to justify the price with a ton of details and explanations, and I worry about reactions.
I feel guilty or worry that I’m not doing enough to justify the price/ number.
How do you feel when you see others who are visibly successful in your field?
I compare myself to others, unsure of how to position myself.
I feel like I’m not as good as they are and doubt my own abilities.
I feel frustrated because I want to control my success but can’t make everything go like I plan.
I feel like I should be helping others more and promoting myself less.
I think, "I could never be that polished or put together."
How do you handle feedback or criticism from others about your work or content?
I often avoid sharing my work because I don’t want to be criticized.
I try to fix everything based on feedback, even when it's minor, to make sure it's "right."
I take it personally and feel like it means I’m not good enough.
I overanalyze it and keep tweaking to avoid any imperfections.
I get paralyzed by feedback, unsure if it’s constructive or just negative.
When you sit down to write a social media post or presentation script, %%FIRST%%,
what tends to happen?
I focus on what others might want to hear, even if it doesn’t fully align with what I want to say.
I spend hours rewriting and tweaking, trying to make the message sound flawless.
I give myself a long time, because it has to be crystal clear. I worry that the audience won't “get it,” or if I’m being too vague.
I micromanage the message, trying to anticipate every possible question or objection. (I tend to be long-winded.)
I debate with myself whether I have the credibility to speak with authority about the topic.
When you’re in a sales conversation or negotiation, %%FIRST%%,
how do you feel?
I often second-guess myself and feel like I’m not presenting the offer well.
I hesitate to ask for the sale, worrying it might be rejected.
I tend to give too much away or over-deliver to avoid discomfort.
I tend to over-prepare, and worry when things go off script.
I want everything to go without a hitch, and so I wait for the perfect moment.
How do you react when someone asks for a freebie or discount in exchange for a testimonial or exposure, or for a favour when you’re at bandwidth?
I feel pressured to give in because I don’t want to disappoint anyone, even if it’s not aligned with my value.
I try to control the situation by making sure I get the best possible outcome.
I feel like I have to over-deliver to make it “perfect” and ensure I get a positive testimonial.
I overanalyze whether it’s a good opportunity and whether I should say yes or no.
I feel like I’m not good enough to charge full price or that I should give away my services to prove myself.
When thinking about being in the spotlight (social media, live videos, posts, etc.), what goes through your mind?
"I don't want to seem too self-promoting. I feel awkward talking about myself."
"What if people think I don’t know what I’m talking about or think I’m pretending?"
"I don’t know if my message will land the way I want it to."
"I need to control how I'm perceived and ensure everything looks perfect."
"It needs to be flawless. This is going to take all day."
You’ve been the helper, the holder, the one who shows up no matter what. And that’s beautiful. But your energy deserves boundaries.
When you reclaim your time, your power, and your voice, your gifts don’t diminish—they deepen.
You want to do it right. You want to get it right. And that drive has served you—until it started keeping you stuck. You don’t have to be flawless to be worthy.
You just have to be real.
You feel deeply. You care deeply. And that makes you powerful.
But when the fear of judgment keeps you quiet - or you hold back parts of yourself to fit in - the world misses out on your medicine. What if being seen didn’t mean being at risk, but being free?
You’ve tried to logic your way through the fog. You’ve waited for clarity to feel safe enough to move. But what if clarity comes after the first step? Your next move doesn’t need to be perfect—it just needs to be true.
You’re the one who gets it done. The one who carries the weight. And that power is real—but so is your exhaustion. What if letting go didn’t mean losing control, but gaining freedom?
